Be clear in your intentions. Know what you are not aiming for. Allow clarity of thought. Everything doesnʻt have to be sorted out at once. Take it one step at a time. Then, stop and look up. Relax, reflect, look into the distance without pressure – it gives you a much clearer picture than looking down in one spot.
The pieces of your puzzle will fall into place when you you take it one small step at a time, rather than trying to take all the steps. Trying clutters Thought – and shuts out flow…
If you think back over your life in periods of say 5 years or maybe 10, you’ll see the many experiences, situations and journeys you’ve found your way through.
You’ll see that at the time those things may have seemed confusing, insurmountable, painful even. But you found your way through to where you are Now.
You found your way through those twists and turns of “not knowing”. And now you have a valuable life tool – hindsight. HINDSIGHT is a gift. We can use it to help us move forward differently, to empower ourselves to make good decisions.
Hindsight allows us to access Clarity of Thought if we use it as a learning resource to reflect upon what we have moved from, and to help plot our course forward.
We often fall into the mistake of “thinking” we have to have it all mapped out clearly – yet that’s not what Clarity is. Clarity has elements of Creativity. Creativity is the creator of Movement. Creativity is fluidity. It creates Flow.
Flow by definition is movement. When water doesn’t flow, it becomes stagnant and doesn’t support the life of the ecosystem it’s part of.
Stuckness, funnily enough, is also part of the creative process. Creativity isn’t always pleasant, that’s another common mistake. When we feel stuck, we KNOW. We Know we can’t stay where we are because it’s not serving us. Stuckness is the signpost that says MOVE.
The KNOWING that we must Move is both inspiring and fearful. What we do next depends on our level of FEAR and our RELATIONSHIP with it.
If something is of high value or high importance, then often the level of Fear increases. That’s because there’s risk involved. RISK is the flip-side of SAFETY – and we’re hardwired for Safety. In the main, most people want Safety because Safety brings a sense of SURENESS. And we link Sureness with KNOWING. And if we know, then then everything’s going to work out…
Maybe, maybe not.
Let’s look at this. We’re wanting Clarity. Clarity seems somewhere in the distance. It doesn’t seem right Now. What does seem “right Now” is: Stuckness, Fear, Relationship, Risk, Safety, Sureness, Knowing, Movement.
If you look at each of these 8 words you’ll notice it’s a journey from one state to another. Each state influences another. Notice it’s a Process. Process is about movement. As you look at each word, which one seems to be the pivotal point? That is, which one helps you to make the change from Stuckness to Movement?
Relationship. It’s your Relationship with Yourself that tells you where you are in the Process. Your relationship with Yourself determines your relationship with each state in the Process. If your Relationship with YOU is not CLEAR, then your relationship with CLARITY will be clouded by lack of TRUST in your ability to Know.
In our Lineage Teachings, to KNOW is an older way of referring to INTUITION. Intuition is feeling based. It comes from deep within your NA’AU/your feeling centre. You cannot fully access your Na’au if you don’t have a relationship of TRUST with yourself.
That’s where the work is. Work on Trusting yourself to Know, and trusting yourself to Know that there aren’t “wrong” decisions. Just decisions. And if the one you make doesn’t take you closer to where you want to go, make another one. Itʻs a Process.
In the Process, you’ll learn something more about you. That no decision is the final destination. It isn’t the end point. It is a step in the process of Creativity. The Process of Creativity becomes the adventure.
The adventure of getting to know yourself better. Forming a solid relationship and belief in yourself and your ability to know.
Our Spiritual Teachings are all about you. They’ve stood the test of time because every generation lives by them. They are woven within our Healing Methods like Lomilomi Massage and Ho’oponopono. Everything that the Kūpuna/Elders preserved is about helping you find your way up the Mountain of Life.
Movement is Life.
That’s why Hindsight can be a gift. It confirms you can find your way – youʻve already done it over and over. It also shows what needs to be done so you can find Yourself as well…
☝🏾 Where to next Kumu?
► BOOK A HOʻOPONOPONO SESSION: a little outside help goes a long way. You can find out whatʻs getting in the way, maybe itʻs old, old stuff or maybe itʻs something more recent. Either way, Hoʻoponopono will help you make a beeline directly to the source of whatʻs getting in the way, and youʻll find out what you have to do to break the block. You can do Hoʻoponopono wherever you are in the world – either online or with a Practiitoner near you. Go the to BOOK SESSIONS Page
► GO DIY: join a course.If you like the sound of Hawaiian Spirituality, join our next Path to Paʻa Class. Youʻll learn our Foundation Teachings and how to apply them to life. Youʻll come to know yourself really well, uncover parts of you that might have been in hiding, and have a strengths-based resource kit that you can call on at anytime. Or, thereʻs our Spiritual Intelligence set of Courses – you do these as self-paced distance learning, checking in with us when you need to. Take the magic carpet to COURSES .
► BREAK THE BLOCK SESSIONS: if neither of those appeal but you still want to have a HEALING CONVERSATION – then you can book with either Kumu Paʻa Julia Nālani or Wise Guide Deborah Rose Hālani. You can do these Sessions live online or in the Studio if youʻre close by. Go to the BOOK SESSIONS Page
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Coming in 2024, Tea with Beryl is raw and real. You wonʻt find a highly polished, edited to an inch of itʻs life studio conversation. The Tea is the conversations we have around the kitchen table – just like Kumu used to have growing up. Everything and anything could be discussed. Back then it was life as it happened in the family. Tea with Beryl takes us back with topics to get you thinking about your own life and ways to learn, heal, grow and change.
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You are love and light in action. Itʻs easy to forget that sometimes. Fear is heavy. Love is light. Fear creates the illusion of darkness which seems very real at the time. When we train ourselves to recognise Fear, we also train ourselves to turn on our Light.
When we learn how to do this, we can also show others. Our light shines so theirs can.
Light isnʻt the domain of Healers and Practitioners – we can all be Light for each other. Often we tend to think of “light” as one light that shines within us. Light is made up of strands. It isnʻt one light that shines, but strands of many Lights.
When you work on your Light to make it clear and pure in every relationship and situation, it vibrates at a level that attracts another strand of Light to it. Light is vibration of pure energy. Pure energy is unencumbered by pōhaku/stones or what we might call our baggage.
Baggage comes from our Past and doesnʻt belong in our Future. Our Teaching: the Past + the Present = The Future confirms it for us. This Teaching means we must take on the challenge of doing our inner work, really committing to it, and being prepared for unlikely revelations that might take us by surprise, rattle us and threat to destabilise our lives (and our progress).
Taking on the challenge means putting yourself under the microscope and examining every aspect of your life. Every segment. Every Relationship. It means getting clear on what you say you stand for. It is about integrity, Truth.
All of us need to relearn how to be Truthful at this level – thatʻs the power of pōhaku and the influence of the Kolohe and Kepalo. To be Truthful at every level in every moment 24/7. If that is Truthful – are you Truthful?
Hana/the work is continuous. No-one is exempt from it. It is work that is done round the clock every day of our lives. To be Truthful is an aspiration of Physical Life. Every moment we encounter both the potential for Truth and the potential for Untruth…half-truthful, sort of Truthful, sometimes Truthful, mostly Truthful is all Untruth!
☝🏽 Think about it right now: are you Truthful in every moment, including this one right now, in every second that passes?
That seems like a giant mountain, impassable and impossible. Yet Spirit and Spiritual Living is all about what is possible. Possible is the domain of potential. Potential is the domain of Light. Light is a vibration of Energy. Because it is vibrational, it must be at the level of Pure Light.
This Energy has a name. We call it Aloha. The Energy of Unconditonal Love. It is the driving force of the Universe. It carries the strands of Light of those who have made it up the Mountain. As well as those who are making their way up there.
Every step we take up the Mountain is one more step into what is possible for us. Imagine if my Light attracted your Light. We stood side by side. Imagine how much Light Energy we would be shining. Then imagine another Light joins us. Now we have 3 strands of Light Energy. Imagine a 4th, 5th, 6th person saw our collective Light shining and comes to stand with us.
We would all be many strands of Light standing together. Making our way up the Mountain. Helping each other. Raising each other up. Making sure no-one gets left behind. Perservering when the going gets tough, helping each other to find our way through it all. Helping each other to find the joy and radiance so we donʻt take it so seriously that it becomes a weight, a Pohaku/a baggage.
Our Kūpuna know this journey. Theyʻre making it too. The Ancestors have all made it. We are all their collective Aloha. We know that because we are here…We all carry their Light of Aloha. Thatʻs why Light isnʻt just one light but the Light of Many.
The Ancestors understood this. They are the Light too. And, thatʻs why we have Teachings, Stories, Chants, Dances, Arts, Crafts, Healing Modalities, Language, Ceremony, Protocols and show respect for the Kūpuna, to help us learn and find our way.
These ARE the containers of Light.
Which is why we have preserved them in our Lineage – so you can learn them too. And shine…
So how to do it?
It can start with doing your Healing and getting into those dark corners and places you donʻt want to go:
► Lomilomi – is a spiritual healing method that feels like physical massage, or bodywork, but it is working at a whole other level. It addresses the physical – stress, tiredness, overwhelm, injury and so on – at the same time as it working at the level of Spirit, the Ancestors, our Spiritual Guardians. This is often the entry point for those for whom Hawaiian Healing Modalities feels helpful.
► Hoʻoponopono goes in deep and like an arrow hits itʻs target. It is about breaking through the layers of stories and the entanglements that go with it. Weʻre looking for the pohaku, the stone, the baggage, the things that are weighing you down. Weʻre stalking it, peeling back the layers of the years and the experiences until we find it. Itʻs deep, itʻs powerful, and you will walk a new path after it. Youo can book with Kumu Nālani, Deborah Rose Hālani for online sessions as well as in-situ or ask us for details of a trained Luna Hoʻoponopono near you.
► Lāʻau lapaʻau/herbal medicine, Kilokilo/astrology, Spiritual Hands-on Healing modalities, Meditation – thereʻs lot of ways to heal. Hawaiian Healing is a System of Healing but itʻs not the only one. The Teachings say Prayer is the medicine and you experience it through energetic healing forms.
► Healing Conversation with the Wise Guides – an exploration of whatʻs happening in your life, discussing it, teasing it all out, coming up with ways to navigate through it, getting your next step.
► You can also join a course through the Hālau and the SoHAD School. The Hālau Foundation Course that introduces the Teachings of our Lineage is the Path to Paʻa. Itʻs the first stage for all our Practitioner Level Courses too.
► Or, you might like to be in a more informal learning space – the Hawaiian Studies Club meets twice/ month. Low cost, informal, like-minds, structured yet organic.
As well, you can explore your Spiritual Intelligence – these are self-paced options to take it all at your own pace. The foundation of these courses is our Hawaiian Teachings, so you get to learn a little about them too.
► The SoHAD has courses in Indigenous Welsh Spirituality – thatʻs the Teachings of the Welsh Druids. And from time to time we have pop-up classes and talks in things like Sensory Awareness, Focussing, Meditation.
👉🏽 Joining the Community mailing list is the place to be to know when these are on. And, you can always contact Kumu Nālani directly. As the 51st Generation Teacher and Healer she is here to help you…
When a sense of reverence surrounds your being it creates movement with every thought and action. You allow your inner self to quietly shine.
When you honour and respect yourself from deep within, you also honour and respect the needs of others. It allows whatever needs to be worked through and achieved to be done with dignity and respect.
This is the time of Lono i ka Makahiki – or Makahiki Season. It is a period often called Hawaiian New Year. Lono is one of the 4 major Akua/Gods & Goddess. He is associated with Agriculture, Rain, Fertility, Peace and Goodwill.
Makahiki Season can be a time for making peace within and with those around you. Who do you need to make peace with? Who are you avoiding? Are you making promises to “catch up” but donʻt do it? What hurt are you carrying toward a person? And why is this hurt impacting you so much? What piece of you is so wounded that you canʻt talk about it to the person concerned, make peace?
When you bottle things up and internalise hurt, the wounding magnifies. If it continues over time, it may seem insurmountable, that it canʻt be made right. Thoughts turn to just letting it slide in the hope it will somehow get better.
Digging in deep is required. Digging into your own hurt, to find the source of your wounding is needed.
Thereʻs something unresolved within you. Something youʻre afraid of that prevents you from making things right.
Often itʻs how the other person, or people, will receive us as we speak the truth of our experience of them or the situation that caused such hurt. Thatʻs a wound from way back that also needs your attention.
Making things right involves risk. You risk whatever relationship it is you have. But thereʻs a greater risk and thatʻs the risk of damaging the relationship you have with yourself. You might already feel that your relationship with yourself is non-existent at worst, fragile or a work in progress at best, and your foundation isnʻt strong enough to risk rejection – from yourself or others.
It is when you are on the edge of risk that the greatest growth can occur and you take another step toward the person you aspire to be. Risk in this context is your growing edge. By rolling the dice and risking it all, you grow.
It does require you to reach in deep, into the depths of your Being to find the courage to make things right. It will require you to put all your learning about yourself into action. It is a test of what and who you say you are in the world. You will be required to show how you are living your beliefs.
It is a test of Truth.
Itʻs this that can create a state of inner conflict – I want to live my beliefs, to be the person I say I am in the world, I really do and yet…thereʻs an edge to all this. I get it. Itʻs hard. Living a spiritual life in these times where the basic spiritual foundations are not known, valued or respected is hard.
It is even harder to live them when youʻre the one doing the compromising of value and respect…when you do not take steps to set things right, it’s on you!
Making things right is what sets you free. Thatʻs the payoff. The risk is you might also lose something or someone. Thatʻs the decision only you can make. It is a question of happiness and unconditional love. It is a question of putting yourself at the head of the line. It is a question of spiritual resilience to deal with any fall out. It is a question of Spirit first and your relationship with Spirit above all others.
It is a question that life is not necessarily absolutes. Absolutes is to limit thinking and creativity. To consider that an outcome is either one or the other creates another level of imprisonment. Imprisonment of Spirit. Of your Spiritual Essence. Of all that you are.
Your Spiritual Essence, your ʻuhane, needs to be your Guide in this not the Mind.
Absolutes is the domain of the mind. The mind is the playground of the Kolohe and Kepalo – lower order destabilising entities who never work in your best interests. Indecision cracks the door open for them to enter. Continuing to delay action opens it further. Getting tangled inside inner conflict pushes the door open a bit more…
The way to close it forever is to do the hana/your inner work to strengthen your spiritual foundation so that there is no room or possibility for separation from ʻuhaneʻs guidance. You have been given this great gift, this great asset to help you in the physical world. To not learn to use it, live from it, be it – thatʻs disrepect.
Respecting who you are, all your potentials, the spiritual freedom that is avaiable to you starts with finding resolution to relational issues. You show yourself disrespect when you engage in avoidance, which is a signpost to your fear.
You show respect for the Beingness of the other person or people when you step up to the plate to speak the Truth of your experience – which might not necessarily be THE TRUTH but it IS the truth from your side.
When you hold on to pōhaku/stones, the things that weigh you down, it becomes emotional baggage which weighs you down even more. You create your own pōhaku, not the other person or persons, who may be unaware of the impact of the incident on you.
You may feel youʻve been disrespected – but the Truth is, youʻre the one doing the disrespecting by not addressing the issue with yourself and the other/s involved.
Decision is your great power. Use it to free yourself. Makahiki is the time to do it…
►Don’t know if you can get there? Hmmm, we can help you with that. Traditional Hoʻoponopono can take you deep inside to the place where your orginal wounding lies. Together we work through the layers of relationship one at a time. The key to Future is in opening doors in your Past. Make a time Kumu Julia, Wise Guide Deborah or one of our trained Luna Hoʻoponopono. Use the Contact Form to find out whoʻs near you or book directly online with Kumu or Wise Guide Deborah.
► Maybe it’s a Healing Conversation that we need to have: here it’s less formal and we still sink in deep. We’ll chat about where you are, what’s happened, where you want to go and what’s blocking the way. You’ll work away with some handy how-to’s to get you started. Kumu Julia Nālani and any of the Wise Guides can help you out.
► Another way is to join a Course and build that Foundation with the help of our Traditional Teachings. The Path to Paʻa is where you want to be. OR, you can join the Hawaiian Studies Club- itʻs a monthly membership, $40/month, and we meet twice a month online. Each meetup is specific, fun, useful, insightful and recorded. Recordings are accessible for 12 weeks and then they go into the Library. Thereʻs also other handy tools and resources for Club Members as well as Course & Session Discounts. So check that out too…not sure, letʻs talk it through. Contact me…Aloha, Kumu Paʻa Julia Nālani x
☝🏽 PS One important thing when we talk about Risk – it doesnʻt mean you place yourself in unsafe situations with unsafe people. For example, in Narcisstic Relationships, Domestic Violence or with people who know are mentally unstable. You still do the inner work but you donʻt place yourself at risk. Not sure? Ask Kumu.
You are not alone. Although we have the Teaching of No Separation, the truth is you are never truly alone. Separation is the illusion.
All things work in unity and harmony. You are part of the unity. It is a universal bond that can never be broken.
That this bond feels broken, disconnected or missing doesnʻt mean that it canʻt be found and repaired. We all have those times when we feel weʻve lost our way.
Itʻs frustrating and sometimes disheartening too because we feel we try so hard to make the connection happen, and then it goes nowhere.
But the road to Nowhere is always a road to Somewhere. It may not be the Somewhere you envisioned, but it might be a necessary Somewhere for you to visit.
Visiting Somewhere means there is Something to find. What if that finding was Yourself, your true Self? We often think that the “spiritual path” evens out at some point. But the Truth is, when the Path starts to even out, buckle up, because youʻre on your way to the next level.
All that you have experienced at this level, learned, put into practice or maybe left behind, is in readiness for the next step up. Because once your lived experience is what we call in our Teachings Paʻa – that is, you have a strong, unshakable foundation at the level youʻre on, meaning, itʻs just how you live nowadays, the Ancestors will take you to where you need to go next.
The taking can be uncomfortable. Horrifyingly sad even. Sometimes our journeys have felt so exhausting at the level weʻre at – we think we canʻt take anymore. Weʻve given it our all. Weʻve put our heart into it, only to discover thereʻs more…
Of course, elevating and levelling up does require rest – otherwise it leads to Spiritual Burnout. Just like a Star that burns too fast, we donʻt want to burn ourselves into extinction.
Everyone and everything around us needs us to shine brighly and without effort. Just “is-ing” while we find our way and allow ourselves to adjust and take stock of where we are.
We donʻt always make the time to reflect – to look back in wonder to see the mountains weʻve climbed, the molehills weʻve navigated around, the people it was necessary to leave behind, or work too.
Sinking into where we are now is how we meld with all around us. Connect, but not at the same level we connected before. Now it is different. It all feels different – sometimes itʻs hard, harsher, or weʻre less patient. Sometimes the way we connected “before” doesnʻt work any more, or at least, doesnʻt feel as comfortable, maybe even less real.
We have to find a new way. An evolutionary way that isnʻt from where we were before because weʻre not there anymore. Weʻre not that person. Where we we are Now is more of the person weʻre becoming.
Every step up is a step TOWARD the Spiritual Self that we truly are. Itʻs a step into our Spiritual Origins. Itʻs a step into our formless Essence which is the True Nature of our existence and our the Truth of our Form. We have to come to know and understand this formless Essence which we call ʻuhane/Spirit…
The more we learn to add this to the way we Connect, form relationships with the Universe around us in all of Itʻs forms, the more it brings us to a different level of understanding. Connections change as we do. They refine and become finer energetically.
Itʻs a necessary evolution too, because if we continue on the Path, we will one day discover that weʻre no longer “connecting” – we just are. And even then, the work isnʻt done, it simply levels up once again…
Finding and following that old friend. How to do it:
▶ Healing helps you. Healing Conversations – sometimes you just want to have time to kukakuka/talk it all through. Kumu Julia Nālani and the SoHAD Wise Guides are experts in matters of life. Kumu and the Wise Guides can help you process, sort things out, find your way, make decisions and feel more settled about things..
▶ Hoʻoponopono is another way to “get there”. Here we delve deep; we make a direct line into all of the nooks, crannies and regualar hiding spaces. We go behind the veil to find what we traditionally call “pōhaku”/stones – baggage. As you level up, things that might have been so well hidden come into vision. It is important to your quality of life, your spiritual development, for your change and transformation that we find these things and they heal. It is about being able to live life without feeling burdened by the past and freeing your future so that the path of peace and happiness is wide open for you. You can book Traditional Hoʻoponopono Sessions online with Kumu Paʻa Nālani and Wise Guide Deborah Rose Hālani. You can also do online and in person Session with Practitioners trained by Kumu around the world – to connect with them contact Kumu Nālani directly
▶ Training yourself with our Hālau is another way to level up again – here weʻre all going up and we take you with us. The Foundation Course – Path to Paʻa – is where you start. Itʻs not only the Cultural Foundation of Hawaiian Spirituality, itʻs the Knowledge that underpins all healing practices like Lomilomi Bodywork Massage and Hoʻoponopono, as well as Hula Dancing and Oli/Chant.
▶ Hawaiian Studies Club is another way to continue doing your Inner Work – the Hana. This is a place of gathering to learn, explore, ask questions, get answers, try things out. Itʻs informal but thereʻs a structured, diverse and interesting learning program. Think: learning about Spiritual Intelligence, our Hālau Teachings, Traditional Learning Moʻolelo/Stories, learn a Hula,and an Oli/Chant, Q&A Sessions, Special Guests, Learning Challenges to explore and experiment with, and more.
Kumuʻs Promise: as a Lineage Kumu Paʻa, my only role is to help you get to Paʻa and stay there…and the way I do that is through my healing and teaching work. The door is open…Aloha, Kumu Julia Nālani x