by Kumu Nālani | Jan 27, 2023 | Blog Posts, Growing
One step for yourself, one giant leap for humankind. Maybe when Neil Armstrong set foot on the Moon, he had something similar in mind for each individualʻs personal greatness and contribution to the wellbeing of the whole Planet and Universe…maybe it was really a call to action for each one of us to look within, to check out whatʻs going on and chart our own new course…
Wby do Spiritual Courses? What are you looking for? Sometimes itʻs because you want to change jobs and something seems appealing; other times you just feel out of sorts and looking for a kicker to boost you back into action; most times itʻs because most of us are aware, even vaguely, of our vulnerabilities and hot buttons, and weʻre looking for the almost unnamable something to show us how to be a better version in some way. Weʻre looking for the kind of fulfilment that actually doesnʻt come in a box.
We have to look outside of the box in order to find our trueness; the essence of ourselves. If weʻre here on the Earth we have a responsibility to ourselves to care for our fragile essence, to build it up and train it to withstand the many spiritual tests it will encounter as we grow and live.
Because thatʻs what Earth Life is about. To strengthen our Resilience Spiritually, Mentally, Physically and in that order, so that when we are no longer here we can take our place in the Ancestor Realm and become a Guide and Helper for those that are walking after us.
But weʻre not going to make it There if we donʻt focus on Here! Here is where we stake our claim to our Past, our Present and our Future. Here is where we prepare ourselves to be ready for whatever comes our way and to take action to stay on what our Ancestors called the “Line of Truth”. Whenever we experience unhappiness, we have a problem. But we also have a clear indicator that weʻre out of alignment.
If we are in alignment we will not experience unhappiness in the same way. Sure weʻll get unhappy, but we will know it for what it is. We wonʻt get dragged down by it, debilitated or paralysed. We wonʻt lose ourselves in it. We know where it can take us, so we know how to head it off at the Pass. We do not have to suffer; it doesnʻt have to be our human condition. Our Ancestors didnʻt have that in their Teachings and we donʻt have it today.
What they encouraged was living from Spiritual Intelligence, which has become all hip today. They didnʻt call it that of course. Itʻs not new. They lived it for Generations. They learned about it as they migrated from Java way to the Marquessas Islands and eventually into Hawaii. They learned if they didnʻt live from Spiritual Intelligence, they would perish.
They understood that Spiritual Intelligence wasnʻt just one thing but a series of understandings about their world, the Universe, the Universes beyond Universes and their relationship to it all. All of this knowledge was their lived experience, to use a modern-day term.
Their knowledge was so vast they divided their understanding into layers and levels and trained each other to be experts in them, which is why we have the wisdom saying now “all knowledge is not taught in the one school” – imagine if only one person knew all these things and then they perished, what would happen then?
Exactly, up the kahawai/river without a hoe/paddle. They also understood that just as one thing is born from another, so is learning and knowledge. Itʻs a continuous cycle that is deep within all things including ourselves.
Their deep knowledge extended to Human Behaviour. They saw how things were with some people – just like today some people had weak boundaries, others abused and bullied, some had grandiose visions for themselves at the expense of others, some coerced, manipulated, lied, blamed and showed no remorse for their actions. Just like it is today. Just as it still is today…
How do we know? Because they continued migrating to get away from it and they devised a set of Teachings that everyone could live by in the process. Teachings that they knew could led people away from corruption and help them to stay on the Line of Truth.
Thatʻs why thereʻs more than one teaching, although that said, there really is only one Powerful Teaching. No Separation. If we can master that, we an master our Earth Existence, because to live in a state of No Separation means we must be living from our Spiritual Intelligence.
All of the Teachings reinforce this state of Being that feels like it arises from our Physical Centre but which is really our Spiritual Centre activated – because there is No Separation between the two. And when we feel it this way, itʻs reinforcement of the Truth of it.
Which is why Truth is another of the Teachings. If there is Truth, there canʻt be Separation. And so it goes on with each of the Teachings. We have long said the real epidemic of our times is Separation.
When we are in Separation we are not able to be Resilent. Which is why the Teachings of our Lineage are all about building Resilience at the Spirit, Mind, Body Levels – in that order. Resilience is a spiritual endeavour. It is a physical experience that has a Spiritual solution.
And thatʻs what youʻre doing in our Path to Paʻa Course, our Spiritual Intelligence Courses, our Welsh Spirtuality Course (which arrives soon) and all of the short courses that we take you on. Theyʻre all about the same thing. Resilience. Building a foundation where you are so sure of yourself, so strong in your essential essence, so firm and unshakeable in your relationship with yourself and Spirit, that no matter what other people say and do, youʻre OK. You know who you are and where you are.
It doesnʻt mean that other people wonʻt hurt you and you wonʻt be hurt by them or that you wonʻt want to retaliate. It means that if you get knocked down, you know how to get back up again. Thatʻs why our Courses are important. Theyʻre real life as it has been lived over and over for Generations.When you do them, you become part of our Generation who knows. If youʻre a Practitioner, we want you to share them with your Clients in sessions. Thatʻs what theyʻre for.
Theyʻre for life…
☝🏽 Note from Kumu Nālani: Koʻu Hoaalaoha/My Friends – I have brought together our preserved Teachings and how to apply them to our modern lives. I have woven them together into a program that will help you to learn, heal, grow and change what needs to be built and transformed. Learning to do this is part of the course and how you begin training yourselves to become more Resilient.
You will be able to map and see your life on a page and we will work together to work out how the Teachings will guide you toward resolution and resilience. I invite you to CONTACT ME if you need to discuss how this training might help you or to work 1:1 with me. My role as a Lineage Kumu is to help you in service of your highest good and that of our collective humanity. 😊
by Kumu Nālani | Aug 31, 2022 | Blog Posts, Changing, Growing
We think about the Spiritual Path as being fairly straightforward, but it isn’t really like that at all. Which is why people fall off the Path. Finding your way along the Path takes real commitment and tenacity. For as long as the memory within our stories tells us, Humankind has had to meet and face one uncomfortable truth – the truth of their humanness.
Sometimes it’s used as an excuse for our failings and mistakes. We can write them off as being “Human”. But is this level of our “Humanness” the same level of being “Human” as the Ancestors lived it?
So the real question is: what did they know that we do not? What is it that prevents each one of us living from the same level they did? And if we did, how would our lives be improved in some way, or would they?
When a set of Teachings is given within any traditional Cultural framework and you begin experimenting with what it’s like to live within them, each one of us is confronted with the weaknesses of our humanness because they are exposed and magnified by the Teachings we’re engaging with.
The roller-coaster of emotions (often labelled as unhappy ones) we experience is our resistance to letting go of what we have allowed ourselves to believe in for many years as Truth. As Humans we do not easily let go of anything we believe has valued and served us in some way. It is the not letting go that keeps us in a place of feeling stuck and unsatisfied. The more we hang on, the more rigid we become. We cannot move.
Often it is the very beliefs we are holding on to that are keeping us stuck – but we cannot see it because those beliefs have gotten us to where we are now. It is the Now that is telling us we are stuck and need to move, but it is the valuing of beliefs that we have outgrown – at some level we intuitively understand this even if it is a very vague intuitive sense – that is preventing the movement.
Every Tradition tells us that to prevent movement is to create suffering. We are the source and architect of our suffering…
Most people cannot take the roller-coaster of emotions. The roller-coaster feeling is the tension between holding on and letting go. Because we cannot cope with the intensity of the feeling, and because we have not learned how to experience the wide gamut of emotions in a healthy way, we resist the movement, telling ourselves all sorts of familiar fabrications: “I’m fine as I am”, “this is as far as I need to go right now”, “I’m OK, I don’t need to change”, “I like myself less now than before”, “itʻs normal to…” and 101 other one-liners.
All of them are the Voice of Resistance – we just don’t recognise it because itʻs a familiar voice and feeling the roller-coaster of emotions isn’t. When something isn’t familiar or when it fails to meet our imaginary view of what “becoming” looks like and what “light” feels like – we assess it as Bad or Not Good…what is really happening at the most profound levels is CHANGE…
And most of us arenʻt taught how to recognise it, embrace it, ride it out and live through it until it becomes our “norm”.
Which, if you really think about it, is why we actively seek out Spiritual Teachings in the first place – to make sense of ourselves…
People do not change because they cannot (or will not) go the distance. They haven’t learned basic coping mechanisms for being uncomfortable with uncomfortable experiences. They are thirsty for the quick fix that instantly makes them feel better and more approving of themselves – and that’s when the old “Stories of Resistance” like those one-liners really kick in.
That we have those thoughts is a normal process of personal change; that we allow them to keep us nailed to the same spot, is not. Are these words “pinging” you strongly in one way or the other? Are you feeling “the Yips”? Are you feeling uncomfortable? We hope so. That’s why we have given them to you. We want to be controversial. We want to create the Depths of Thought within you. We want you to objectively assess your own beliefs. We do not want you to stay nailed to the cross, sacrificing the finding of the Truth of Light within you. That is the mission of all Traditional Teachings in their pure form.
Uncorrupted Teachings help you to fight your way through; corrupted Teachings do not serve the Truth of You, they serve the corruption of your Spiritual Essence keeping you contained in “unpotential”, which is a wasteland, literally a wasting of your spirit and a wasting away of your potential. Uncorrupted Teachings teach you the Skill of Discernment, so you can see the Truth, corrupted Teachings will make it sound like truth, but really they’re hiding the Truth from you. They blind you to all that you can be. To all youʻre supposed to be.
You will only ever know this for yourself when you go the distance and follow the path to its end – in the process you will experience life unmasked. The roller-coaster of emotions is the first raw experience of unmasking. Only when you are unmasked, are able to decide the Truth. Which doesn’t require a decision at all…
How can I develop myself further Kumu?
- Join the School of Spirituality Spiritual Intelligence Training – Stage 1: 4 x Sundays in November 2022 @ 09:00am – 10:00am with Kumu Nālani live online or start the DIY Course and reach out to Kumu when you need to. This course is suitable for everyone
- Join the School of Hawaiian Spiritual Studies: Path to Paʻa. 7 x Mondays starting mid-October 2022 @ 6:00pm – 8:00pm with Kumu Nālani live online. This course is for those interested in learning about Hawaiian Spiritual Practices, Practitioners of Hawaiian Healing like Lomilomi and those thinking about becoming Lomilomi and/or Hoʻoponopono Practitioners.
- Get in on our mailing list to get our Free Magazine, overflowing with articles to get you thinking about life, growth and then what…👉🏽 join our community
- Do a 1:1 online Hoʻoponopono Session and start clearing the stones from your Path: Kumu and Wise Guide Deborah Halani both do these sessions Or doing live online Healing Sessions with one of the other Wise Guides – each Guide works with you in a different way
by Kumu Nālani | Aug 1, 2022 | Blog Posts, Growing, Healing, Spirituality
A Moʻolelo is a story. Every story preserves important information for a healthy, spiritually-driven life. Teaching Stories have many layers and levels. We call this the kaona – the deeper, sacred meaning concealed within what is shared.
A Haumana/Student learns a moʻolelo word for word so they can share it acurately with the next generation of listeners to benefit from the Teaching. And the story of how the Naupaka Flower came to be goes like this…
There is a shiny green plant that grows near the beaches of Hawaii called the Naupaka. It has small delicate white half flowers. It was named for Naupaka, a Hawaiian Princess who lived many, many years ago at a time when the Naupaka blossoms were whole.
Her people loved Naupaka. She was always smiling and she had sweet words for all the people of the village. One day they noticed Naupaka was very sad. “Aue! Oh dear, why is Naupaka so sad?” they asked each other.
Word reached the King and Queen. They found Naupaka at the mountain pool. The face reflected in the water was a very sad face. “O dear daughter, why are you so sad?” her mother asked.
Naupaka shook her head “I am deeply in love, in love with a handsome young man named Kauʻi”
“Is he of noble birth?” her mother asked.
“No my mother, he is not”
The social order of the day did not allow members of the royal family to marry commoners. Her father said “we must consult the Kupuna/Elders of the Village. They will tell us what to do.”
Alas, the Kupuna did not give their decision. They said “Naupaka and Kauʻi must journey far, they must journey to the Heiau. There the Kahuna will tell them.”
Naupaka and Kauʻi journeyed for many days until they finally reached the great heiau at the top of the mountain.
There they waited at the lava wall and called out to the Kahuna within. “We have arrived here at your temple. Please answer us and come to speak with us.”
The old Kahuna arrived and listened to Naupaka and Kauʻi. He shook his head sadly. “The Hawaiian Gods must decide.”
Suddenly the sky darkened and the wind rose. There was a torrent of rain, a loud clap of thunder and flashes of lightening. Naupaka and Kauʻi embraced sadly. The Gods had given them a sign. They were not to marry.
Naupaka tore the blossom from her hair. She broke it in two and placed half the blossom in Kauʻiʻs palm. “We will separate” she said. “I will remain here in the mountains and you will journey back to the seashore. And, my beloved, never again will we meet”.
The Naupaka blossoms growing nearby heard the lovers sadness and bowed their heads.
To this very day the Naupaka blossom of the mountains and the Naupaka blossom of the seashore remain in perfect halves
The Hawaiians believe that some day Naupaka and Kauʻi will be reunited and the flowers will again bloom as whole, perfect blossoms.
Mahalo Anakala Pilipo Solatorio – this moʻolelo was shared with Uncle by Anake Noni Beamer. Mahalao na Kupuna for preserving this beautiful Teaching Story for us all to learn, live and share.
☝🏽 Learning Challenge From Kumu Nālani:
- Challenge yourself to “think like a Hawaiian” (thatʻs one of the things we help Seekers and Practitioners interested in Hawaiian Culture & Healing to develop) as you read this Moʻolelo
- Can you find the main points that tell you what this Moʻolelo is about?
- What is the purpose of this moʻolelo – the Kupuna/Elders always did things for a purpose, moʻolelo is not different
- Now, can you take it a step further and find the “kaona” – the deeper, sacred meanings placed carefully within this story?
- Write or record your answers – send them to me if you like and Iʻll give you some feedback 😍 here to share with me
- Next Step: put what you learn into practice in your own life…
🌺 We always start each module of our Hawaiian Studies Courses with a Teaching Moʻolelo – you can begin learning about Hawaiian Spirituality, Culture and Healing right now in our distance education, self-paced course: Path to Paʻa. You work your way through all of the learning materials and reach out to Kumu when you need help or clarification. And if we donʻt hear from you, weʻll reach out to you.
🌺 The Path to Paʻa is also in a live, online facilitated format with weekly classes with Kumu Nālani. Suitable for Spiritual Seekers and Healing Practitioners – especially Lomilomi Practitioners to make sure you have our correct cultural teachings in place…youʻll find (as everyone does) your work will go next level very quickly. Get on the mailing list so you know when the next Course is on 👉🏽 here to be first 👉🏽 learn more about our Courses and do the free preview course too (and yes, you can always send Kumu questions too without enrolling in the full course 😊) 👉🏽 click your heels to go here 👉🏽 want to join something really cool that will help you grow into the true essence of yourself – open to Spiritual Seekers and Healing Practitioners especially of Lomilomi – join the Hawaiian Studies Club: the Path to Paʻa is one of the Courses included as part of your membership along with HEAPS of other KA BOOM Learning Activities, Forums and Biz Building Resources 👉🏽 go for a browse here 👉🏽 and then get on the waitlist here
🌺 Things not chugging along as you want? Do one-on-one online Healing Sessions with one of the Wise Guides. Each Wise Guide works with you in a different way 👉🏽 here to find a Wise Guide
☝🏽 We are a Social Enterprise – which means Course Fees and some of your Wise Guide Session Fees go into our Projects Fund, so youʻre helping us to do good things in the world…
by Kumu Nālani | Jul 27, 2022 | Blog Posts, Growing
I almost walked past this one. Stepped over it, thinking “I have had enough Enlightenment for now…”.
And then I heard “the voice”. Retracing my steps, I heard it before I got there. I just knew what this Teaching was going to be about.
Looking down at a Kukui Nut Shell submerged in the sand. Kukui Nuts – literally used to make light in the old days of Traditional Molokai, Hawaii – are all about enlightenment. Beautifully patterned, I knew before I turned it over, it would be only a half-shell…
…earlier, sitting under the Keawe Tree (an invasive and destructive non-indigenous pest), looking out across the Kalohi Channel toward Lanai in morning calm, this was the conversation I’d been having with the Ancestors…
I knew this important Teaching would be reinforced somewhere as I made my way back home to my Kumu’s hale/house. (Put these 3 things together in the context of this Teaching: the Keawe Tree/ an invasive pest, Kalohi/slow, lingering, becalmed & Kumu – the Source…)
Of course, it would only be half of the Kukui Nut Shell. Of course. Knew it as I turned the pretty thing over. This is the problem we face as a Spiritual Community, and as Teachers of Deep Tradition.
People who only go half-way on the “Path”, thinking they’ve “got enough”, solved their problem, know it all, advice-give to others, think they know enough to teach others.
Going half-way on the Path means there’s still more you don’t KNOW – how could you know, you haven’t completed the Path…
…and if you’re wondering right now “have I…”, then you KNOW you haven’t completed the Path…
The world is full of “teachers” and “seekers” who only have one half of the shell. They sound convincing on the Socials, in their Workshops. They look credible in carefully crafted pics. They sound credible, mostly to people who are just starting the Path, still on the Path, dropped off the Path…
But they only have one half of the shell. They know enough to convince themselves that their work is done, or done enough…
Enlightenment is going the whole length of the Path. Doing whatever it takes. We only know where it ends when we transition into Pō, the place of Origin. And then the Path simply continues but at another level.
We can experience levels before we get to Pō – which is why we “think” we’ve achieved enlightenment, but really what’s happening is we are growing, changing and literally uplevelling our physical experience. It’s enlightenment with a small “e”…
And because we ARE uplevelling, the Path appears to change. Maybe it becomes easier in parts, maybe we become more comfortable with ourselves as we go along it, maybe our KNOWING/Intuition increases, maybe it gets “hard” at times, but we KNOW how to find our way through it.
We know “hard at times” is part of the Path. We KNOW we don’t have to give up and get off the Path, but use what we’ve learned, our Teachings, to get to the other side of “hard”.
The Path seems to change because we do – and because we do, we can change the path through the Path. The Path itself doesn’t change. It’s always going in the same direction – toward Enlightenment.
The Teaching: don’t get caught out thinking you have achieved Enlightenment, and so there’s nothing more left to do. Don’t go through life with only half the shell in your toolkit. Stay on the Path. That’s the only way to get what’s waiting for you within the whole shell. What we call Enlightenment….
☝🏽 What do I do next Kumu?
Take some time to think about where you are and the Path you’re on – take a step back and truthfully ask yourself “am I actually on the Path?” and “If I am, what Path am I on?”. Then take it a step further and check yourself out: “am I where I really need to be, or do I know there’s a few missing pieces in my puzzle?”. And if you’re a Hawaiian Healing Practitioner of Lomilomi or Ho’oponopono who DOESN’T have the Traditional Teachings in place – ask yourself “what is preventing me from learning them?” and “what am I holding onto in my previous training, even if I have a feeling it’s not culturally correct?”.
😊 We’re really interested in working with Spiritual Seekers who want to get on the Path and go the distance in life; we also L-O-V-E–E working with other Healing Practitioners and Teachers…the world needs you and your work, BUT we need, as a deep and culturally esteemed Lineage, to MAKE SURE you have the CORRECT Teachings in place. We are culturally appointed custodians of the Teachings – we don’t decide “hey! I’m going to start teaching this stuff”, the Kumu Pa’a Nui decides on behalf of the Community. And that’s a really significant difference between the Kumu of the SoHAD and most other Spiritual Teachers of Hawaiian Healing.
👉🏽 Development you can do:
- Seekers and Practitioners: develop your Spiritual Intelligence. Join our distance, DIY Courses with help from Kumu and the Wise Guides on tap whenever you need it whilst you are studying with us or join a facilitated class with Kumu Nalani or one of the Wise Guides
- Hawaiian Healing Practitioners: start by joining our Path to Pa’a Course – you’ll be so glad you did. It’s got the Traditional Cultural Teachings you need for your Healing Practice. Two options: in a live online class with Kumu Nalani or Distance Education with help from Kumu when you need it. This training is recognised Professional Development in 39 Countries.
- Join the Hawaiian Studies Club: this is a members only Club – check it out here 👉🏽 Yo! Take me there
- 1:1 Develoment: do regular sessions with one of the Wise Guides, there’s 5 to choose from. They all work in different ways 👉 Wise Me Up!
by Kumu Nālani | Mar 5, 2022 | Blog Posts, Growing, Hawaiian Studies Club
When we grow we create a bridge between healing and change. That’s what growth is. Growth is the mid-point, the transitional process that leads to change which is the transformation from one state to another. Within these states of transition another process takes place. We learn to become strong and unshakeable – or what is called Pa’a in our Hawaiian Lineage.
We can only get to the stage of Growth because we have moved through the cycle before it, which is healing. Healing continues through Growth, but it is a different more aware and advanced stage of Healing. Healing itself will always be continual because all new growth spurts require healing to be entered into first.
We cannot heal without first learning – which is why learning, healing and growth are a web of interdependent cycles that we must move through if we are to attain the state of Pa’a and stay there. Change is the part of the process where we learn to stay Pa’a.
As we teach in our courses, Pa’a is not the zenith or peak, that once there we simply perch and stay. That’s impossible because the energy of the world moves and we must move with it. In all things and time periods this happens.
When we resist, we experience pain and suffering by trying to hang on. Often we lose sight of what we are really hanging on to – but if we have worked the process of learning, healing and movement into growth, we come to understand the true nature of it and what’s in it for us to keep hanging on.
The revelation of the “what’s in it” for us to hang on, the illusional reward, is a step on the Path to enlightenment. One bulb lights up with each step and it’s this that enables the next bulb to light. All through life we are stepping and lighting – that’s how we get to shine but the shine will only last as long as we stay Pa’a. Which is why we must continue to step along the Path.
Each time we do, another layer is revealed to us. These layers of Beingness and Understanding can only be stripped back and revealed because we are Growing. Growing is part of the lifecycle. It isn’t always easy and painless. It isn’t always fast. In fact Growth that is too fast can create the state of Fear – fear of being powerful enough to have the awareness we are simultaneously shaping and participating in our lives at the very same moment in time. Sliding doors moments…
When this happens and we have awareness of it, without the learning, healing and growing in place first, it can be so overwhelming that we reject our own power because we haven’t been taught how to companion our power and use it as a force for movement towards Source. As humans we do not really understand power. Our Hawaiian Teaching of Mana gives us a way to understand spiritual power and transcendence of physical limitation.
By the very word we learn that within it’s two syllables there is a sacred meaning that holds the key to understanding Growth. We always say, the sacred meanings are held deep within the language. Understand language and you will understand the Ancestral Teachings, and this applies to the origins of all languages including the olde English. When we study Mana, we are studying deeply into the understanding of Growth, its orgins, its present and its future. Mana gives us an alignment that moves through time and space.
Mana teaches about the formless power of our true nature, our spiritual essence and how it moves, transcends and moves again. We are in a constant cycle of movement and growth. We may deviate at times and feel lost. This is because we have stepped off the Path in the way we live. The Teachings are those that bring us back again if we understand what they are really telling us.
The Teachings are both the Path and the map to finding our way back onto the Path when we have stepped off. Fear causes us to step off the Path as we have already shared with you; impatience causes us to step off the Path; Ego is another cause – which is really dressed up Fear. Ego is the compensation for not feeling worthy or good enough. It arises from feelings of disempowerment.
If we understand Mana and spiritual power, we will also understand empowerment and all its many layers. That’s why it is a study of laying down one layer at a time. And it’s also why our Teacher Kumu Lawrence says people are in too much of a hurry to get to Z that they don’t pay attention and put the work into the knowing all the layers of the ABC’s. Meaning, everyone wants to get to the end, the outcome, but the outcome you want can only come from doing the study to understand all of the steps along the way.
You will only have lasting empowerment if you learn to understand, apply and live from the Source of Power – which is also about living from your Spiritual Intelligence. It all fits together and all of these skills and knowledge must be developed so that you can move into Change.
If you think about it in this way you’ll see that Growth is the period of Personal Development…and if you can see that, you have lit a bulb of Enlightenment…
☝ Learn more about Growing and living from the Spiritual Path in our Path to Pa’a which is the Foundation Course of Hawaiian Spiritual Teachings. These Teachings are the spiritual ground from which healing modalities like Lomilomi Massage and Ho’oponopono grow. If you want to learn those modalities, the Path to Pa’a is your starting point. You can do this course DiY or in a class live online with Kumu Nālani. Another way to develop is to do the Spiritual Intelligence Courses, start with Phase 1 which can also be done as DiY study or in faciiltated classes with Wise Guide Deborah Rose Hālani. ❓’s are always welcomed as our only desire is to help you learn, heal, grow, change and aim for something higher. Here to ask Kumu for help and guidance: Hey Kumu!
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by Kumu Nālani | Dec 15, 2021 | Blog Posts, Changing, Growing, Hawaiian Studies Club, Healing, Relationships
WHEN THE YEAR STARTS TO DRAW TO A CLOSE & THE NEW ONE IS ON THE HORIZON it’s time to start looking forward.
When the hurly burly of Christmas & the Holiday Season ramps up it’s easy to get caught up in the distraction as you swing from crazy to chaotic – end of year targets, an endless round of socialising, holidays, Christmas lunch & dinner to think about, as well as co-ordinating visits to the rellies – family. In all of this, there’s one simple question to answer, “are you happy?”.
You might answer sometimes, generally, usually, not always – we all have things in our life that make us feel happy, but deep down are you happy?
If you find yourself saying “I’ll be happy when...”, it’s time to clear the clutter to uncover what truly makes you happy. Finding happy isn’t a chase or a goal to go after, it’s finding where your happy place is within you & the rest follows.
How about making 2022 your year of personal growth, change and development – free from being weighed down by past baggage…
Unfortunately there’s still a lot of stigma about Counselling but Counselling is really all about Personal Development – working one-on-one with someone to help you get where you want to go, to stop doing the things that prevent you from being happy and start doing more of the things that do. It’s that simple.
📅 A Year of Personal Change – what you can do:
1. Let go of expectations of yourself, others and how you think things should be
2. Stop trying to please everyone – it takes you away from your true self
3. Repair resentment, guilt and shame – find its root cause and heal it. Remember we all makes mistakes – it’s how we learn
4. Find forgiveness and you’ll find authentic connections with yourself and others
5. Say goodbye to draining, de-energising relationships – it’s tough but you’ve got to know when it’s not for you
6. Release all the busyness – have you confused it with status and achievement? Or avoidance? It doesn’t give you more of anything except stress and (often) lower self-esteem
7. Money doesn’t buy happiness – of course you need it but what have you traded-off for material gain & earning more & more? And how much do you really need anyway?
8. Let go of fear of abandonment – it leads to poor decision making
9. And let go of fear too – that’s one thing the Kūpuna/Elders always advise. Fear is the distortion of the Ego which is designed to help you in this school of life.
A list is just a list without action and action is hard to take on your own – that’s why you need a Wise Guide to help you access the places you would not be able to go by yourself and cheer you on through the tough stuff…they also make sure you’re holding yourself in love and not judgement
☝ If this strikes a chord and you want 2022 to be a milestone year, then make a time with Mark or one of the other Wise Guides and get set for 2022…
