What Will You Do in 2022…

What Will You Do in 2022…

WHEN THE YEAR STARTS TO DRAW TO A CLOSE & THE NEW ONE IS ON THE HORIZON it’s time to start looking forward.

When the hurly burly of Christmas & the Holiday Season ramps up it’s easy to get caught up in the distraction as you swing from crazy to chaotic – end of year targets, an endless round of socialising, holidays, Christmas lunch & dinner to think about, as well as co-ordinating visits to the rellies – family. In all of this, there’s one simple question to answer, “are you happy?”.

You might answer sometimes, generally, usually, not always – we all have things in our life that make us feel happy, but deep down are you happy?

If you find yourself saying “I’ll be happy when...”, it’s time to clear the clutter to uncover what truly makes you happy. Finding happy isn’t a chase or a goal to go after, it’s finding where your happy place is within you & the rest follows.

How about making 2022 your year of personal growth, change and development – free from being weighed down by past baggage…

Unfortunately there’s still a lot of stigma about Counselling but Counselling is really all about Personal Development – working one-on-one with someone to help you get where you want to go, to stop doing the things that prevent you from being happy and start doing more of the things that do. It’s that simple.

📅 A Year of Personal Change – what you can do:

1. Let go of expectations of yourself, others and how you think things should be

2. Stop trying to please everyone – it takes you away from your true self

3. Repair resentment, guilt and shame – find its root cause and heal it. Remember we all makes mistakes – it’s how we learn

4. Find forgiveness and you’ll find authentic connections with yourself and others

5. Say goodbye to draining, de-energising relationships – it’s tough but you’ve got to know when it’s not for you

6. Release all the busyness – have you confused it with status and achievement? Or avoidance? It doesn’t give you more of anything except stress and (often) lower self-esteem

7. Money doesn’t buy happiness – of course you need it but what have you traded-off for material gain & earning more & more? And how much do you really need anyway?

8. Let go of fear of abandonment – it leads to poor decision making

9. And let go of fear too – that’s one thing the Kūpuna/Elders always advise. Fear is the distortion of the Ego which is designed to help you in this school of life.

A list is just a list without action and action is hard to take on your own – that’s why you need a Wise Guide to help you access the places you would not be able to go by yourself and cheer you on through the tough stuff…they also make sure you’re holding yourself in love and not judgement

☝ If this strikes a chord and you want 2022 to be a milestone year, then make a time with Mark or one of the other Wise Guides and get set for 2022…

What Will You Do in 2022…

Super 9’s List for Creating a Season of Change

With the finish line for 2021 only a few months away, Now is the time to start looking forward. 

Before the run home; before the hurly burly of Christmas ramps up where it’s easy to get caught up in the distraction as you swing from crazy to chaotic – end of year targets, an endless round of socialising (we hope…), holidays, Christmas lunch & dinner to think about, co-ordinating visits to the relies (again, we can only hope in these upside down times…)

Before any of that happens – start taking stock now. Put down Covid-uncertainty for a moment, take a breath, get a cup of tea, sit, breath, let yourself sink back and ask one simple question to answer, “am I happy?”.

You might answer sometimes, generally, usually, not always – we all have things in our life that make us feel happy, but deep down are you happy?

If you find yourself saying “I’ll be happy when…“, it’s time to clear the clutter to uncover what truly makes you happy. Finding happy isn’t a chase or a goal to go after it’s finding where your happy place is within you & the rest follows.

How about making this year, your year of personal change and development – free from being weighed down by past baggage, expectation, toeing the line…

Unfortunately while there’s still a lot of stigma about it, Counselling is really all about Personal Development – working one-on-one with someone to help you get where you want to go, to stop doing the things that prevent you from being happy and start doing more of the things that do. Really, it’s that simple.

A year of Personal Change can start at anytime, it’s not just a new year kind of thing. In the old times, everyone lived within the Seasons, you can start your own Season of Change. Here’s the list of the super 9’s:

1. Let go of expectations of yourself, others and how you think things should be

2. Stop trying to please everyone – it takes you away from your true self

3. Repair resentment, guilt and shame – find its root cause and heal it. Remember we all makes mistakes – it’s how we learn

4. Find forgiveness and you’ll find authentic connections with yourself and others

5. Say goodbye to draining, de-energising relationships – it’s tough but you’ve got to know when it’s not for you

6. Release all the busyness – have you confused it with status and achievement? It doesn’t give you more of anything except stress and (often) lower self-esteem

7. Money doesn’t buy happiness – of course you need it but what have you traded-off for material gain & earning more & more? And how much do you really need anyway?

8. Let go of fear of abandonment – it leads to poor decision making

9. And let go of fear too – that’s one thing the Kūpuna/Elders always advise. Fear is the distortion of the Ego which is designed to help you in this school of life.

A list is just a list without action and action, especially the first steps into positive action, is hard to take on your own – you need a Guide to help you access the places you would not be able to go by yourself, help you distentangle yourself from what’s got you caught, and to help you move from thinking to learning, healing, growing and changing…

Striking a chord? If you want to create your milestone Season of Change, this short article is shared from Mark, one of our Wise Guides. All of the Wise Guides are wonderfully skilled Helpers and they all work in lusciously different ways. You can book time with them on the Wise Guide Booking Page, and you want to have a free 15 minute chat with one of them before booking – let them know here (don’t forget to tell us which Wise Guide you want to work with).

Power Up & Lead From Personal Power Not From Personal Wounds

Power Up & Lead From Personal Power Not From Personal Wounds

Need to improve your People Skills – here’s how…

IF you’ve been given feedback that you need to improve your People Skills, Communication Skills or Leadership Skills OR you want to get ahead in the workplace for your next career move – here’s the best way to do it.

The world is full of people leading and interacting from their personal wounds – that is, wound to wound. The wounded trying to lead the wounded…it isn’t exactly a recipe for success.

There’s examples at every level of Governance – from Global Leadership to the local SME. The reason why workplace leadership is in such a poor state with rampant bullying and the like, is because Leaders don’t do their inner work and the teams they lead don’t either.

So all day every day, everyone’s wounds are getting triggered. If you are a leader of people you have a responsibility to heal and resolve your “stuff” so that you aren’t projecting and transferring it on to others in your workplace. And you model working on your “stuff” is cool and normal thing to do.

PROJECTION is when you take your own unliked, unwanted emotions and traits and attribute them to someone else. It stops you having to acknowledge the parts of yourself you don’t like.

People who feel inferior and have low self-esteem can also project their own feelings of not being good enough onto others. It’s a self-defence mechansim that kicks in under pressure. We’ve all done at some time in our lives – so don’t be too hard on yourself if this is hitting on a raw nerve.

The workplaces seem to reward stress, skewed values and all sorts of availability except emotional availability. The cycle continues – until you decide otherwise.

There’s a range of complex emotional transactions that happen at work and few people are well equipped to acknowledge them and work through them because Spiritual Intelligence isn’t always learned at home and it’s not taught in Leadership Courses or even thought about in workplaces.

if each person is doing their inner work, then there wouldn’t be the issues in the workplace to start with. Leaders and teams would be comfortable acknowledging weaknesses, vulnerabilities, failures – the whole conversation would change because they can accept experiencing the negative about themselves.

Language would be very different. It would be emotionally healthy, comfortable with intimacy and give space to working through problems without judgement or threat of punative action.

Good leadership starts with: developing self-reflection skills to understand yourself better FIRST, being able to explore your inner world, your past, learning about your wounds, your shame, anger, fear or whatever it is and their impact on your whole life not just work, and being curious about yourself rather than judging. Your future as a Leader isn’t that important but your future as a person is – good leadership will naturally arise when you become the person you want to be. That’s called being PONO.

To get better people skills come to our next workshop. Open the doors to the best of you – that’s where the real power comes from to get ahead in every part of life. That’s what real people skills are…

Did you know we run a 100% self-paced learning program in Spiritual Intelligence? Itʻs in 3 parts: The Beginning, Spiritual Nature and then, the whammy Universal Nature. This learning program is chock-full of the exact activities and practices we do ourselves every day to continue to develop ourselves as Healers and Teachers. Find more on the Courses Page...