by Kumu Nālani | Nov 20, 2023 | Blog Posts, Growing, Hawaiian Studies Club
Scrolling through the SMʻs this morning Iʻm struck by how many people “like” and “love this” on the quick fix lists.
So I want to know – whatʻs the rush? If youʻre a Spiritual Seeker why are you rushing your development with Quick Fix Lists?
What are you rushing to or from? Itʻs true in our Teachings we often share Anakala/Uncle Pilipoʻs wisdom about making our way up the Mountain – but never does he tell us itʻs a fast trip!
Zooming up the mountain and getting there faster doesnʻt mean youʻll find what youʻre seeking when you get to the top!
Because when you get there, you might find thereʻs a new peak which you couldnʻt see before. And so the journey begins again. What you learned on your way up, is what equips you for the next peak. Where you are, which you thought was the top, is a plateau to rest for the next leg of the journey.
So being in a hurry means you might by-pass important Teachings that are the foundation for your next level of ascension. And where will that leave you? Ill-equipped for whatʻs next…
Hurrying towards the goal (whatever that is) is triggered by Need. Need stems from a sense of lack in some area of your life – maybe itʻs your stuff from the Past that you havenʻt fully resolved, maybe itʻs a sense of time running out, new information revealed or maybe itʻs just that youʻre in a hurry to “move on”.
But hurrying isnʻt the answer. Hurrying can cause you to skim over only the top level which gives the illusion that youʻre “doing the hana/the work”. For growth and change to occur, the learning has to be deep.
Going deep takes patience because just like the mountain, thereʻs depths within depths. Your job is to discover them all. As you do you will discover the pathway changes as you expand.
Expansion takes patience and persistance, thatʻs why we have the word “E hoʻomanawanui” – which literally means patience and fortitude or taking big(nui) time (manawai) to do (hoʻo) something.
Our Ancestors understood Patience and Fortitude are not easy to live by day to day. They are two sides of the same coin. One arises because of the other. If you are in a hurry, youʻre trying to CONTROL the flow of your life. Control in this context doesnʻt help, it causes you to hold on more tightly, which creates a sense of scarcity and hurry.
You think you are hurrying forward, towards something. But thatʻs not true. Youʻre not hurrying away from pain but hurrying deeper into it. Peddling backwards. Some people might call it “avoidance”. Only you will know.
So what to do?
▶ Acknowledging growth requires you to stop, step back and reflect deep into the REAL TRUTH. As you do, be aware of even the slightest, most subtle contraction, frission or glinch as you do. Your body is your physical sensory vessel that is most often the easiest to listen to – but remember, when your body tells you something, it has already happened at the Spiritual Level. The Phsyical is the last place you become aware of it.
▶ If your body feels the REAL TRUTH about your attachment to Quick Fix Lists, fast remedies or 5 Ways to…, listen to it without hilahila/shame or judgement. It is simply your expansion into REAL TRUTH – which is always the domain of the true Seeker.
Itʻs a sign of your Growth, lean into it…Aloha, Kumu Paʻa Julia Nālani x
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by Kumu Nālani | Aug 31, 2022 | Blog Posts, Changing, Growing
We think about the Spiritual Path as being fairly straightforward, but it isn’t really like that at all. Which is why people fall off the Path. Finding your way along the Path takes real commitment and tenacity. For as long as the memory within our stories tells us, Humankind has had to meet and face one uncomfortable truth – the truth of their humanness.
Sometimes it’s used as an excuse for our failings and mistakes. We can write them off as being “Human”. But is this level of our “Humanness” the same level of being “Human” as the Ancestors lived it?
So the real question is: what did they know that we do not? What is it that prevents each one of us living from the same level they did? And if we did, how would our lives be improved in some way, or would they?
When a set of Teachings is given within any traditional Cultural framework and you begin experimenting with what it’s like to live within them, each one of us is confronted with the weaknesses of our humanness because they are exposed and magnified by the Teachings we’re engaging with.
The roller-coaster of emotions (often labelled as unhappy ones) we experience is our resistance to letting go of what we have allowed ourselves to believe in for many years as Truth. As Humans we do not easily let go of anything we believe has valued and served us in some way. It is the not letting go that keeps us in a place of feeling stuck and unsatisfied. The more we hang on, the more rigid we become. We cannot move.
Often it is the very beliefs we are holding on to that are keeping us stuck – but we cannot see it because those beliefs have gotten us to where we are now. It is the Now that is telling us we are stuck and need to move, but it is the valuing of beliefs that we have outgrown – at some level we intuitively understand this even if it is a very vague intuitive sense – that is preventing the movement.
Every Tradition tells us that to prevent movement is to create suffering. We are the source and architect of our suffering…
Most people cannot take the roller-coaster of emotions. The roller-coaster feeling is the tension between holding on and letting go. Because we cannot cope with the intensity of the feeling, and because we have not learned how to experience the wide gamut of emotions in a healthy way, we resist the movement, telling ourselves all sorts of familiar fabrications: “I’m fine as I am”, “this is as far as I need to go right now”, “I’m OK, I don’t need to change”, “I like myself less now than before”, “itʻs normal to…” and 101 other one-liners.
All of them are the Voice of Resistance – we just don’t recognise it because itʻs a familiar voice and feeling the roller-coaster of emotions isn’t. When something isn’t familiar or when it fails to meet our imaginary view of what “becoming” looks like and what “light” feels like – we assess it as Bad or Not Good…what is really happening at the most profound levels is CHANGE…
And most of us arenʻt taught how to recognise it, embrace it, ride it out and live through it until it becomes our “norm”.
Which, if you really think about it, is why we actively seek out Spiritual Teachings in the first place – to make sense of ourselves…
People do not change because they cannot (or will not) go the distance. They haven’t learned basic coping mechanisms for being uncomfortable with uncomfortable experiences. They are thirsty for the quick fix that instantly makes them feel better and more approving of themselves – and that’s when the old “Stories of Resistance” like those one-liners really kick in.
That we have those thoughts is a normal process of personal change; that we allow them to keep us nailed to the same spot, is not. Are these words “pinging” you strongly in one way or the other? Are you feeling “the Yips”? Are you feeling uncomfortable? We hope so. That’s why we have given them to you. We want to be controversial. We want to create the Depths of Thought within you. We want you to objectively assess your own beliefs. We do not want you to stay nailed to the cross, sacrificing the finding of the Truth of Light within you. That is the mission of all Traditional Teachings in their pure form.
Uncorrupted Teachings help you to fight your way through; corrupted Teachings do not serve the Truth of You, they serve the corruption of your Spiritual Essence keeping you contained in “unpotential”, which is a wasteland, literally a wasting of your spirit and a wasting away of your potential. Uncorrupted Teachings teach you the Skill of Discernment, so you can see the Truth, corrupted Teachings will make it sound like truth, but really they’re hiding the Truth from you. They blind you to all that you can be. To all youʻre supposed to be.
You will only ever know this for yourself when you go the distance and follow the path to its end – in the process you will experience life unmasked. The roller-coaster of emotions is the first raw experience of unmasking. Only when you are unmasked, are able to decide the Truth. Which doesn’t require a decision at all…
How can I develop myself further Kumu?
- Join the School of Spirituality Spiritual Intelligence Training – Stage 1: 4 x Sundays in November 2022 @ 09:00am – 10:00am with Kumu Nālani live online or start the DIY Course and reach out to Kumu when you need to. This course is suitable for everyone
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