When a sense of reverence surrounds your being it creates movement with every thought and action. You allow your inner self to quietly shine.
When you honour and respect yourself from deep within, you also honour and respect the needs of others. It allows whatever needs to be worked through and achieved to be done with dignity and respect.
This is the time of Lono i ka Makahiki – or Makahiki Season. It is a period often called Hawaiian New Year. Lono is one of the 4 major Akua/Gods & Goddess. He is associated with Agriculture, Rain, Fertility, Peace and Goodwill.
Makahiki Season can be a time for making peace within and with those around you. Who do you need to make peace with? Who are you avoiding? Are you making promises to “catch up” but donʻt do it? What hurt are you carrying toward a person? And why is this hurt impacting you so much? What piece of you is so wounded that you canʻt talk about it to the person concerned, make peace?
When you bottle things up and internalise hurt, the wounding magnifies. If it continues over time, it may seem insurmountable, that it canʻt be made right. Thoughts turn to just letting it slide in the hope it will somehow get better.
Digging in deep is required. Digging into your own hurt, to find the source of your wounding is needed.
Thereʻs something unresolved within you. Something youʻre afraid of that prevents you from making things right.
Often itʻs how the other person, or people, will receive us as we speak the truth of our experience of them or the situation that caused such hurt. Thatʻs a wound from way back that also needs your attention.
Making things right involves risk. You risk whatever relationship it is you have. But thereʻs a greater risk and thatʻs the risk of damaging the relationship you have with yourself. You might already feel that your relationship with yourself is non-existent at worst, fragile or a work in progress at best, and your foundation isnʻt strong enough to risk rejection – from yourself or others.
It is when you are on the edge of risk that the greatest growth can occur and you take another step toward the person you aspire to be. Risk in this context is your growing edge. By rolling the dice and risking it all, you grow.
It does require you to reach in deep, into the depths of your Being to find the courage to make things right. It will require you to put all your learning about yourself into action. It is a test of what and who you say you are in the world. You will be required to show how you are living your beliefs.
It is a test of Truth.
Itʻs this that can create a state of inner conflict – I want to live my beliefs, to be the person I say I am in the world, I really do and yet…thereʻs an edge to all this. I get it. Itʻs hard. Living a spiritual life in these times where the basic spiritual foundations are not known, valued or respected is hard.
It is even harder to live them when youʻre the one doing the compromising of value and respect…when you do not take steps to set things right, it’s on you!
Making things right is what sets you free. Thatʻs the payoff. The risk is you might also lose something or someone. Thatʻs the decision only you can make. It is a question of happiness and unconditional love. It is a question of putting yourself at the head of the line. It is a question of spiritual resilience to deal with any fall out. It is a question of Spirit first and your relationship with Spirit above all others.
It is a question that life is not necessarily absolutes. Absolutes is to limit thinking and creativity. To consider that an outcome is either one or the other creates another level of imprisonment. Imprisonment of Spirit. Of your Spiritual Essence. Of all that you are.
Your Spiritual Essence, your ʻuhane, needs to be your Guide in this not the Mind.
Absolutes is the domain of the mind. The mind is the playground of the Kolohe and Kepalo – lower order destabilising entities who never work in your best interests. Indecision cracks the door open for them to enter. Continuing to delay action opens it further. Getting tangled inside inner conflict pushes the door open a bit more…
The way to close it forever is to do the hana/your inner work to strengthen your spiritual foundation so that there is no room or possibility for separation from ʻuhaneʻs guidance. You have been given this great gift, this great asset to help you in the physical world. To not learn to use it, live from it, be it – thatʻs disrepect.
Respecting who you are, all your potentials, the spiritual freedom that is avaiable to you starts with finding resolution to relational issues. You show yourself disrespect when you engage in avoidance, which is a signpost to your fear.
You show respect for the Beingness of the other person or people when you step up to the plate to speak the Truth of your experience – which might not necessarily be THE TRUTH but it IS the truth from your side.
When you hold on to pōhaku/stones, the things that weigh you down, it becomes emotional baggage which weighs you down even more. You create your own pōhaku, not the other person or persons, who may be unaware of the impact of the incident on you.
You may feel youʻve been disrespected – but the Truth is, youʻre the one doing the disrespecting by not addressing the issue with yourself and the other/s involved.
Decision is your great power. Use it to free yourself. Makahiki is the time to do it…
►Don’t know if you can get there? Hmmm, we can help you with that. Traditional Hoʻoponopono can take you deep inside to the place where your orginal wounding lies. Together we work through the layers of relationship one at a time. The key to Future is in opening doors in your Past. Make a time Kumu Julia, Wise Guide Deborah or one of our trained Luna Hoʻoponopono. Use the Contact Form to find out whoʻs near you or book directly online with Kumu or Wise Guide Deborah.
► Maybe it’s a Healing Conversation that we need to have: here it’s less formal and we still sink in deep. We’ll chat about where you are, what’s happened, where you want to go and what’s blocking the way. You’ll work away with some handy how-to’s to get you started. Kumu Julia Nālani and any of the Wise Guides can help you out.
► Another way is to join a Course and build that Foundation with the help of our Traditional Teachings. The Path to Paʻa is where you want to be. OR, you can join the Hawaiian Studies Club- itʻs a monthly membership, $40/month, and we meet twice a month online. Each meetup is specific, fun, useful, insightful and recorded. Recordings are accessible for 12 weeks and then they go into the Library. Thereʻs also other handy tools and resources for Club Members as well as Course & Session Discounts. So check that out too…not sure, letʻs talk it through. Contact me…Aloha, Kumu Paʻa Julia Nālani x
☝🏽 PS One important thing when we talk about Risk – it doesnʻt mean you place yourself in unsafe situations with unsafe people. For example, in Narcisstic Relationships, Domestic Violence or with people who know are mentally unstable. You still do the inner work but you donʻt place yourself at risk. Not sure? Ask Kumu.
You are not alone. Although we have the Teaching of No Separation, the truth is you are never truly alone. Separation is the illusion.
All things work in unity and harmony. You are part of the unity. It is a universal bond that can never be broken.
That this bond feels broken, disconnected or missing doesnʻt mean that it canʻt be found and repaired. We all have those times when we feel weʻve lost our way.
Itʻs frustrating and sometimes disheartening too because we feel we try so hard to make the connection happen, and then it goes nowhere.
But the road to Nowhere is always a road to Somewhere. It may not be the Somewhere you envisioned, but it might be a necessary Somewhere for you to visit.
Visiting Somewhere means there is Something to find. What if that finding was Yourself, your true Self? We often think that the “spiritual path” evens out at some point. But the Truth is, when the Path starts to even out, buckle up, because youʻre on your way to the next level.
All that you have experienced at this level, learned, put into practice or maybe left behind, is in readiness for the next step up. Because once your lived experience is what we call in our Teachings Paʻa – that is, you have a strong, unshakable foundation at the level youʻre on, meaning, itʻs just how you live nowadays, the Ancestors will take you to where you need to go next.
The taking can be uncomfortable. Horrifyingly sad even. Sometimes our journeys have felt so exhausting at the level weʻre at – we think we canʻt take anymore. Weʻve given it our all. Weʻve put our heart into it, only to discover thereʻs more…
Of course, elevating and levelling up does require rest – otherwise it leads to Spiritual Burnout. Just like a Star that burns too fast, we donʻt want to burn ourselves into extinction.
Everyone and everything around us needs us to shine brighly and without effort. Just “is-ing” while we find our way and allow ourselves to adjust and take stock of where we are.
We donʻt always make the time to reflect – to look back in wonder to see the mountains weʻve climbed, the molehills weʻve navigated around, the people it was necessary to leave behind, or work too.
Sinking into where we are now is how we meld with all around us. Connect, but not at the same level we connected before. Now it is different. It all feels different – sometimes itʻs hard, harsher, or weʻre less patient. Sometimes the way we connected “before” doesnʻt work any more, or at least, doesnʻt feel as comfortable, maybe even less real.
We have to find a new way. An evolutionary way that isnʻt from where we were before because weʻre not there anymore. Weʻre not that person. Where we we are Now is more of the person weʻre becoming.
Every step up is a step TOWARD the Spiritual Self that we truly are. Itʻs a step into our Spiritual Origins. Itʻs a step into our formless Essence which is the True Nature of our existence and our the Truth of our Form. We have to come to know and understand this formless Essence which we call ʻuhane/Spirit…
The more we learn to add this to the way we Connect, form relationships with the Universe around us in all of Itʻs forms, the more it brings us to a different level of understanding. Connections change as we do. They refine and become finer energetically.
Itʻs a necessary evolution too, because if we continue on the Path, we will one day discover that weʻre no longer “connecting” – we just are. And even then, the work isnʻt done, it simply levels up once again…
Finding and following that old friend. How to do it:
▶ Healing helps you. Healing Conversations – sometimes you just want to have time to kukakuka/talk it all through. Kumu Julia Nālani and the SoHAD Wise Guides are experts in matters of life. Kumu and the Wise Guides can help you process, sort things out, find your way, make decisions and feel more settled about things..
▶ Hoʻoponopono is another way to “get there”. Here we delve deep; we make a direct line into all of the nooks, crannies and regualar hiding spaces. We go behind the veil to find what we traditionally call “pōhaku”/stones – baggage. As you level up, things that might have been so well hidden come into vision. It is important to your quality of life, your spiritual development, for your change and transformation that we find these things and they heal. It is about being able to live life without feeling burdened by the past and freeing your future so that the path of peace and happiness is wide open for you. You can book Traditional Hoʻoponopono Sessions online with Kumu Paʻa Nālani and Wise Guide Deborah Rose Hālani. You can also do online and in person Session with Practitioners trained by Kumu around the world – to connect with them contact Kumu Nālani directly
▶ Training yourself with our Hālau is another way to level up again – here weʻre all going up and we take you with us. The Foundation Course – Path to Paʻa – is where you start. Itʻs not only the Cultural Foundation of Hawaiian Spirituality, itʻs the Knowledge that underpins all healing practices like Lomilomi Bodywork Massage and Hoʻoponopono, as well as Hula Dancing and Oli/Chant.
▶ Hawaiian Studies Club is another way to continue doing your Inner Work – the Hana. This is a place of gathering to learn, explore, ask questions, get answers, try things out. Itʻs informal but thereʻs a structured, diverse and interesting learning program. Think: learning about Spiritual Intelligence, our Hālau Teachings, Traditional Learning Moʻolelo/Stories, learn a Hula,and an Oli/Chant, Q&A Sessions, Special Guests, Learning Challenges to explore and experiment with, and more.
Kumuʻs Promise: as a Lineage Kumu Paʻa, my only role is to help you get to Paʻa and stay there…and the way I do that is through my healing and teaching work. The door is open…Aloha, Kumu Julia Nālani x
We think about the Spiritual Path as being fairly straightforward, but it isn’t really like that at all. Which is why people fall off the Path. Finding your way along the Path takes real commitment and tenacity. For as long as the memory within our stories tells us, Humankind has had to meet and face one uncomfortable truth – the truth of their humanness.
Sometimes it’s used as an excuse for our failings and mistakes. We can write them off as being “Human”. But is this level of our “Humanness” the same level of being “Human” as the Ancestors lived it?
So the real question is: what did they know that we do not? What is it that prevents each one of us living from the same level they did? And if we did, how would our lives be improved in some way, or would they?
When a set of Teachings is given within any traditional Cultural framework and you begin experimenting with what it’s like to live within them, each one of us is confronted with the weaknesses of our humanness because they are exposed and magnified by the Teachings we’re engaging with.
The roller-coaster of emotions (often labelled as unhappy ones) we experience is our resistance to letting go of what we have allowed ourselves to believe in for many years as Truth. As Humans we do not easily let go of anything we believe has valued and served us in some way. It is the not letting go that keeps us in a place of feeling stuck and unsatisfied. The more we hang on, the more rigid we become. We cannot move.
Often it is the very beliefs we are holding on to that are keeping us stuck – but we cannot see it because those beliefs have gotten us to where we are now. It is the Now that is telling us we are stuck and need to move, but it is the valuing of beliefs that we have outgrown – at some level we intuitively understand this even if it is a very vague intuitive sense – that is preventing the movement.
Every Tradition tells us that to prevent movement is to create suffering. We are the source and architect of our suffering…
Most people cannot take the roller-coaster of emotions. The roller-coaster feeling is the tension between holding on and letting go. Because we cannot cope with the intensity of the feeling, and because we have not learned how to experience the wide gamut of emotions in a healthy way, we resist the movement, telling ourselves all sorts of familiar fabrications: “I’m fine as I am”, “this is as far as I need to go right now”, “I’m OK, I don’t need to change”, “I like myself less now than before”, “itʻs normal to…” and 101 other one-liners.
All of them are the Voice of Resistance – we just don’t recognise it because itʻs a familiar voice and feeling the roller-coaster of emotions isn’t. When something isn’t familiar or when it fails to meet our imaginary view of what “becoming” looks like and what “light” feels like – we assess it as Bad or Not Good…what is really happening at the most profound levels is CHANGE…
And most of us arenʻt taught how to recognise it, embrace it, ride it out and live through it until it becomes our “norm”.
Which, if you really think about it, is why we actively seek out Spiritual Teachings in the first place – to make sense of ourselves…
People do not change because they cannot (or will not) go the distance. They haven’t learned basic coping mechanisms for being uncomfortable with uncomfortable experiences. They are thirsty for the quick fix that instantly makes them feel better and more approving of themselves – and that’s when the old “Stories of Resistance” like those one-liners really kick in.
That we have those thoughts is a normal process of personal change; that we allow them to keep us nailed to the same spot, is not. Are these words “pinging” you strongly in one way or the other? Are you feeling “the Yips”? Are you feeling uncomfortable? We hope so. That’s why we have given them to you. We want to be controversial. We want to create the Depths of Thought within you. We want you to objectively assess your own beliefs. We do not want you to stay nailed to the cross, sacrificing the finding of the Truth of Light within you. That is the mission of all Traditional Teachings in their pure form.
Uncorrupted Teachings help you to fight your way through; corrupted Teachings do not serve the Truth of You, they serve the corruption of your Spiritual Essence keeping you contained in “unpotential”, which is a wasteland, literally a wasting of your spirit and a wasting away of your potential. Uncorrupted Teachings teach you the Skill of Discernment, so you can see the Truth, corrupted Teachings will make it sound like truth, but really they’re hiding the Truth from you. They blind you to all that you can be. To all youʻre supposed to be.
You will only ever know this for yourself when you go the distance and follow the path to its end – in the process you will experience life unmasked. The roller-coaster of emotions is the first raw experience of unmasking. Only when you are unmasked, are able to decide the Truth. Which doesn’t require a decision at all…
How can I develop myself further Kumu?
- Join the School of Spirituality Spiritual Intelligence Training – Stage 1: 4 x Sundays in November 2022 @ 09:00am – 10:00am with Kumu Nālani live online or start the DIY Course and reach out to Kumu when you need to. This course is suitable for everyone
- Join the School of Hawaiian Spiritual Studies: Path to Paʻa. 7 x Mondays starting mid-October 2022 @ 6:00pm – 8:00pm with Kumu Nālani live online. This course is for those interested in learning about Hawaiian Spiritual Practices, Practitioners of Hawaiian Healing like Lomilomi and those thinking about becoming Lomilomi and/or Hoʻoponopono Practitioners.
- Get in on our mailing list to get our Free Magazine, overflowing with articles to get you thinking about life, growth and then what…👉🏽 join our community
- Do a 1:1 online Hoʻoponopono Session and start clearing the stones from your Path: Kumu and Wise Guide Deborah Halani both do these sessions Or doing live online Healing Sessions with one of the other Wise Guides – each Guide works with you in a different way
IT ALL STARTS WITH A SPECIAL KIND OF LISTENING. A listening, that is so deep, so clear, so unencumbered that there is no mistaking what you are hearing. It is in PŌ – The Place of Origin – that the Ancestors reside. The Ancestors who know and your potentials. They know all that is possible for you. Want to heal and develop personally and professionally? It all starts with discovering the interconnectedness of your own identity. It is only through that process you will truly understand your spiritual sacredness and the sacred nature and importance of your relationship with “place”…
Listening…to the “song” of Place is to listen into the “songs of PŌ – The Place of Origin. You might have a different name for it in your Tradition or way of understanding things.
We MUST come to understand the Place of Origin, if we are to really understand ourselves. Our history tells us how…
We can go back to the very first Kahunas, the first Kahunas of the First of the First Nations people. They migrated through the South Pacific trying to escape Spiritual Corruption.
Spiritual Corruption continues today and each one of us experiences it AND contributes to it at some point. That’s a confronting thought…
…at some point the Kahunas knew they would have to stop running. There was no escape from the corruption the human mind, the Ego, can inflict on the Practices of Spirit. There was only one decision, to stop and make a stand.
And that’s what they did.
They brought with them profound and intricate understanding – the level of understanding that can only come from Pō, the Place of Origin.
From the level of understanding of Pō, they constructed a way of life around the Teachings of Pō that encapsulated the Spiritual Energy of Pō into a way of thinking about life. And themselves as part of life. One fed the other. Because the thinking was uncorrupted, daily life was also uncorrupted…
And so it continued for generations… The Kupuna/Elders provided the direction of life which included the reverence of care of the land, which was not only part of life, but considered part of the family.
They ensured each person was educated in the TEACHINGS OF PILINA – Relationship, developing Protocols and Ceremonies that upheld AND continued the understanding of the INSEPARABLE UNIFIED NATURE of their relationship with land, the ocean, rivers, streams, rain, sun, clouds, stars, animals, birds, insects and fish – everything that could be seen, heard, touched, smelled, felt, tasted and everything unseen, unheard, untouched, unsmelled , unfelt, untasted as well.
People lived at a different level to most of us today.
They lived at a level of uncorrupted Spiritual Pilina that translated to HOW they lived in each day. They didn’t have to think about their Spirituality, they were it.
They understood themselves. They understood the Cosmos, the Universe. They understood Pō – the Place of Origin. They heard it, touched it, smelled it, felt it, tasted it and learned to see the unseen, then add this learning to how they lived their daily lives.
They heard its “song”, the many voices that are present within Pō. And because they heard its “song”, they could hear and understand the song of their Place, their land, where their homes were built. They understood that there was a COMMUNICATION between their Place and the Place of Origin – a PILINA.
One song is part of another song – the sound of your Place is the sound of Pō. That’s what makes a place SACRED.
Your ability to hear it, understand it and communicate with it – to understand and make yourself understood in return – is what gives you your SPECIFIC & UNIQUE PILINA with YOUR place.
It gives you your IDENTITY. Becomes part of you. You become part of it. It’s a reciprocal relationship. You can’t become separate from it – but when you do experience separation, that conflict you feel within, is the sound of place calling you back.
Your identification with Place, as part of Place, is what gives you AND It, sacredness. You both hold the mana/the spirit energy of the Ancestors, which reside within Pō, the Place of Origin. It’s like a fingerprint, and you and your Place carry it. Together. Sharing the same breath and the same life force.
Both of you powered by the Mana of Pō.
In our School of Hawaiian Spiritual Studies, we learn this type of Pilina has a name: WAHI PANA AU PAU. You and your Place are the sacred story of Pō. When you come to know Pō, which is ongoing by the way, you come to know more of yourself. It’s then that you really begin to understand yourself better.
Your unfolding story of Pilina, gives your Place more mana/spirit power. Makes it more sacred bese you come to know your own sacredness, and this is what you give back to place each time you remember it.
It’s you that keeps your place Wahi Pana – Sacred. And vica versa. Your Place is You…Pilina with Place is Pilina with yourself…
☝🏽 Where to next Kumu?
- Get to know your Place; what is it now? What is it’s history? What are First Nations stories about it? – doing you research can lead you into an exciting adventure and deeper connection with People & Place
- Get to know your Place by visiting a spot you feel drawn to: maybe intuitively, maybe through your reserach or other knowing and quietly meditate or pray in this Place. Observe Protocol 👇🏽
- Develop Yourself: our Spiritual Intelligence Courses 1 – 3 take you on a journey of self-discovery starting with yourself, then Nature and finally the Cosmos. You can do these by Distance Learning, at your own pace with support from Kumu and the Wise Guides when you need it 👉🏽 bingo
- Join our Path to Pa’a Course: this is for both Spiritual Seekers and Practitioners and is all about the Foundation Teachings of our Ancestors from Halawa Valley Molokai, including teachings about Wahi Pani and how you can develop your relationship .👉🏽 check it out with the free course intro
- Join our Hawaiian Studies Club: classess, forums, resources, biz building help, discounts on sessions 👉🏽 go here for more
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